A book recommended to me years ago that showed up in my life again yesterday (thanks, Sister!).
Of course, it was divine timing.
Aristotle defines Generosity as, "the right gift at the right time to the right person."
I repeat this often and time and time again life has shown me that we live in a very generous Universe.
The book is short and sweet; I recommend you read it for yourself when your timing is right.
And whether it is this book or another path, the destination is the same: Self-love.
How will you know the timing is right to start loving yourself? You’ll be stuck, frustrated, angry, hurt, just done with this, all of it. You’ll feel called, compelled, or maybe just curious for change.
From what I’ve learned from the book Callings by Gregg Levoy (another powerful read), some calls come strongly and fiercely, others softly and effortlessly. Your only job is to listen.
A few insights from "Love yourself like your life depends on it.”
“Darkness is only the absence of light.
Fighting fears doesn’t work. It just drags us in closer. One has to focus on what’s real. On the truth. When in darkness, don’t fight it. You can’t win. Just find the nearest switch, turn on the light.”
What do you mean?
A switch may be a Mental Loop, a Meditation, a Self Love practice, anything that brings light into your life.
— Rewire the brain’s neuropathways with a powerful thought, “I love myself” or "I love and accept myself". Say it internally and externally over and over again, while brushing your teeth, “I love myself”, while getting into the car or on the train, “I love myself”, before you pick up the phone, “I love myself”, when you’re in a meeting, “I love myself”, when you wake up in the morning, “I love myself.” It may feel unnatural at first and maybe even selfish. But that’s not just not true. Dig a deeper groove into your being that is based on love and you’ll transform what was once mud: self doubt, fears, insecurities, anxieties, into clarity and truth: love.
— What do you do with negative thoughts? As they come in ask, “useful or not useful?” Most often the answer is, not useful. Once you address it, the thought often subsides. Some are stubborn, address and release. Another thing I like to say to my inner critic is, “Thank you for sharing.” Again, acknowledge it and release. Jamal recommends, “it’s okay." Deep breath, "I love myself.”
Meditations (recommended by Kamal):
1. Sit quietly with an instrumental song you love, 7 minutes or however long works for you and silently pour light, love, the galaxies, the stars, all of it in. Inhale, “I love myself”, exhale, release what you no longer need.
2. Look in the mirror, stand courageously and lovingly, look into your left eye and for 5 minutes, slowly but surely, “I love myself." Whether you believe it in that moment is not important, what's important is saying it to yourself, looking into your eyes where there is no escape from the truth. And ultimately the truth is loving yourself. Repeat it again, gently, "I love myself. ” Pausing occasionally to watch your eyes. When the five minutes are up smile. Step into the rest of your day.
Self-love practices (recommended by Kelsey/Lotus):
1. Self-love bath – pour yourself a bath. Treat yourself, maybe candles or lavender oil, whatever feels good to you. Starting with your baby toes, look at every inch of yourself and tell yourself “I love and accept myself” and why. It may feel strange at first, it’s likely something you haven’t done before, be easy, take your time. Soak it in. Love yo self.
2. Self-forgiveness – Forgive yourself for not being perfect. Write it out. Over and over again, forgive whatever it is you need to forgive. “I forgive myself for being careless. I forgive myself for being unkind. I forgive myself for not knowing the answers. I forgive myself for caring too much. I forgive myself for not being perfect etc.” Then bless yourself. The same amount. “I bless myself with compassion. I bless myself with kindness. I bless myself to know my truth. I bless myself with love and light.” Allow the negative energy to release and the love to flow back in. I have done this one a lot and find it brings me so much peace.
3. Self-love thank you card – write yourself a card, thanking yourself for who you are and how you're showing up. It may feel strange at first but why not be your own best friend for a change? When you finish, read it out loud to yourself. Then put it somewhere special. Find it later and read it again.
One last thought…what does this all lead to?
“It takes time, sure. Took me months to go from misery to magic. But you will noticed changes, shifts in your feelings, beautiful happenings in your life. Expect them. There’ll be more and more until one day, you’ll be walking outside in the sunshine, feeling good, loving life and life loving you back, and you’ll stop and realize that magic is now your natural state.
Can you imagine a better way to be?"
— Kamal Ravikant, Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It
I invite you to experience all the magic this generous Universe has offer. This may sound fluffy and you may think I am a fairy. But I’m just a human who got sick of hating herself and being in pain and is now loving herself like her life depends on it.
Fall in love with the wholeness of your life. Grow from there.
With love x gratitude,